Stop letting everyone else decide if you’re okay.
If one side-eye, unanswered text or disagreement can ruin your whole day, you’re externally anchored, and it’s time to take your anchor back.
Sound familiar?
You can’t let it go until you figure out why tf they did that.
You clock another example of how difficult they are, so you have more proof that you’re right.
You’re waiting on that apology, or at least an acknowledgment of what they did, before you can move on.
You replay the conversation 77 times until you can settle on the fact that they seemed okay.
You overthink the unanswered text, fighting yourself over whether to follow up or wait until they finally respond.
That’s external anchoring. Learn what it is
The core idea
From the pattern back to yourself
External anchoring
Looking anywhere outside of yourself to check whether you’re okay.
Re-Anchoring
Noticing where you’ve left yourself, and returning your attention and choice back to you.
Internally anchored
Things still change and get uncomfortable, and people will still disappoint you. You stay connected to yourself while they do, and source your okayness from within.
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Free guides to external anchoring, Re-Anchoring and being internally anchored.
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Short episodes on rumination, resentment, people-pleasing and coming back to yourself.
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Meet Beth
From miserable, codependent people-pleaser to free AF.
For most of my life, being okay depended on everyone else being okay with me. I bent over backwards for friends, bosses, clients, my parents, my husband and his family, and still never felt like I was good. Therapy, courses and coaches explained why. Learning to stay with myself is what finally changed it, and it’s what I teach now.
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In their words
“This is life changing and exactly the missing piece I’ve been searching for for years… What was I missing? This. This is what I’ve been missing. Just being aware of external anchors has changed me.”
Shared with permission. Individual experiences vary. The Portal is self-guided education, not therapy or medical care.
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